all the way to pony island

Apr 19
Apr 19
Making quince jam.

Making quince jam.

Apr 19


some people love a happy, cheerful trans woman - we’re the perfect accessory to their tolerance.  lots of people love to pity a sad trans woman - they think we’re miserable because we wanna be just like them.  but everyone loves to hate an angry trans woman - our outrage does nothing to flatter them.

Apr 07

An open letter to J Street: Let's talk →


It’s time to bite the bullet. We of the critical (non/anti/post-Zionist) Israeli peace camp understand why a liberal Zionist organization like J Street could never consider, let alone accept, the end of the two-state solution. You say it yourselves: the end of the two-state solution is the end of Israel as a Jewish state; it marks the end of Zionism.

A reasonable article by the head of the Israeli Committee Against House Demolitions to liberal Zionists laying out the two options in front of them: historic palestine ruled by one zionist state with apartheid and ghettos for the Palestinians or a non-Zionist state with equality and justice for all its residents.

Apr 07

liberal feminism isn’t your ally either



i don’t normally like to delve into the realms of the TERFy these days, but i felt compelled by some recent experiences to talk about the ways that liberal feminism fails trans women, since trans folks tend to focus their criticisms on radical feminism almost exclusively. my aim is to show that the specific ideological differences are not the cause of trans-exclusion, but that rather these things are the result of pervasive cissexism that exists in the vast majority of cis people, and thus naturally cis women.

lisa millbank of the excellent radtransfem has talked about how liberal feminists “weaponize” trans women against radicals - and this definitely seems to bear out. someone who presents an apparent contradiction to ideas of wholly socially constructed gender is convenient for a group whose ideology depends on an unease with that concept, and an unwillingness to embrace it fully. you can dismiss radicals with, “well what about trans people?” without engaging their arguments or considering their implication for your own circumstances.

trans inclusion is predicated, i would argue, on this relationship. trans women are welcomed symbolically, without ever really achieving integration with the group. as long as the trans woman “behaves” - is sexless, not too radical, willing to be an artefact for liberal rhetoric, they are accepted. in exchange the libfems will very loudly shout buzzwords for them, about how “gender is between your ears not your legs” and that “trans women are women… period!!!!” that obfuscate trans discourses in favour of palatable platitudes. 

for a while now i’ve been part of a local feminist discussion group, and while there are some excellent and engaged feminists in there, i’ve consistently sensed tensions between myself and the more liberal wing of the group. despite being trans myself, my comments about being trans are viewed with suspicion and distrust, because i speak with the language of radicalism. a cis woman is generally treated as the group’s authority, because she knows several trans men and does drag, and her comments receive a lot more respect than mine do. the rhetoric she serves up is simplistic and asinine, focused on trans-as-subversion, and overly biasing trans narratives that are constructed entirely out of empty appeals to gender identity and preferences in gender expression.

her arguments aren’t as interesting to me as the form of her arguments though, and i’ll refrain from addressing them directly here and now. because these arguments are made whenever trans radicalism raises its head. these arguments are veiled in the language of inclusion - “not all trans people want surgery or hormones”, she says, and she’s right, but the way she says it, specifically addressing radicalism and trans people’s voices, implies heavily that those that do, or even those that want dysphoria and transition to be considered important parts of what trans means for a lot of people, are not really… the right sort. they’re not useful to her, going out on saturday nights in drag to “indulge her boy side”. they’re kind of weird in fact, and hard to identify with. i think that the appearance of inclusion is more important to liberal feminists than actual inclusion.

this can produce disastrous results if the liberal in question radicalizes. one woman in the group, who didn’t know i was trans, took my comments about gender abolition and trans radicalism and explained that it had given her a lot to think about, and that really if you think about it female only spaces are a good idea. this was hardly my point. viewing trans women in the sort of dehumanized way that our society encourages however, the only way she knew how to respond to increased radicalization with regards to gender was to admit that she was suspicious of trans women all along. 

these experiences have led me to a very obvious conclusion. the way libfems and radfems think about trans women is no different. what differs is their perspective on gender. while gender is fun, trans women are useful. when gender must be destroyed, trans women, as gender’s apparent avatars, must be destroyed with it. 

so trans women, don’t be fooled. the liberals aren’t your allies either. the only solution is enthusiastic acceptance of trans women in women’s spaces, an acceptance where our voices are not taken from us and we are not held in contempt for radicalism. the irony is that to achieve this sort of radical acceptance we must be radical, liberal subversionism will only ever buy us false friends. 

This is a brilliant post which says exactly what I’ve been trying to say for a long time but haven’t quite found the words, though I’ve approached it here and here. I’m very grateful this post exists as now I can just link to it any time I want to make this point!

Given that I might be linking to it, I wanna make one small note which is that where koboldfacedlie refers to “simplistic and asinine [rhetoric]” I want to be crystal clear that survival is never wrong, and that simplistic rhetorics can often be survival for trans* women. It’s when cis people ignore other systems of meaning, select those rhetorics, strip them of context and inconvenient detail and then present them as the One Trans Truth that there’s a problem.

Everything else though I’m 100% behind.

I’d also like to suggest a name for this kind of false acceptance in order to ward off radical feminism (and achieve other goals): transwashing. In my opinion liberal feminism (and other non-radical, e.g. many queer feminisms) has mostly successfully transwashed itself.

This also supplies the missing piece of logic for much of the social exclusion trans* women experience in cis-dominated feminist spaces. We’re there because they need us. They don’t have to actually embrace us; just as OP says, what matters is the appearance. They have to appear to be (and possibly be) safer for us than radical feminism. That’s all.

Other trans* sisters - especially other radical feminist trans* sisters - your thoughts?

Apr 06




Joe’s Truck House via Tiny House Swoon, photos taken by Ilan Nachum

Alternative living is such a neat thing!

okay, so like, i like the ideas of tiny houses, people can really be happy with less space, especially if they are single and do not have a family, but i feel like all this glorification of “alternative housing” is kind of bullshit. low-income people and families have been living in tiny houses for decades, they’re called “trailers”. but for them, it’s not really a choice. like either pay rent in an apartment forever or live in a trailer where you might have a chance of owning it. but if someone decides to give up their luxury and stay in tiny house with an expensive pristine interior with some solar panels, well that’s ~revolutionary~ and worthy of praise. i’m all for solar panels and not using unnecessary resources to live, but i’m not for this classist bullshit of praising rich people for doing what poor people have always done, and i’m worried this tiny house thing is going to lead to gentrification of trailer parks and small apartments when landlords realize that if you just install some Ikea lofted furniture and storage units rich yuppies will pay a lot more to live there.

Yaaaaassss. I see no lies.

Mar 31

Click here to support Help fund Rebecca's legal defence →


TW domestic violence, transphobia, outing

Bec is being threatened with legal action for blogging about a case where cops outed a transgender woman to her abusive partner. She needs help raising fund for her defense!

Please donate if you can and signal boost!

Mar 22


Basically my point is if you’re a part of a radical trans/queer program or social clique and you love to mention Sylvia Rivera or Marsha P. Johnson but you’d never have anyone like those women around you and your crew, then you need to shut the fuck up and take their names outta your mouth.

Mar 22


In traditional Jewish society, verbal brilliance often functioned as a compensatory substitute for action in the real world. If one could not in actual fact kill the czar or beat up a truculent Polish peasant, at least once could sublimate one’s hostility and fear by eloquent and cynical humor. Yet nobody was really fooled by this.

(332) ניט מיט שילטן און ניט מיט לאַכן קעו מען די וועלט איבערמאַכן
(“Neither with cursing nor with laughter can one remake the world.”)

— James A. Matisoff, Blessings, Curses, Hopes and Fears: Psycho-Ostensive Expressions in Yiddish, p. 105 (via aza-min-mentsch)
Mar 19

Anonymous asked: "it had been so long since i’d got hatemail, i was scared i was falling into irrelevancy. thank you dear anon for letting me know i’m still doing good work; pissing of dickheads like you." considering you enjoy also pissing others off with your own hate aka 'criticisms' then perhaps the irrelevancy isn't too far off point. and um.. "trans bros who earnestly say one of their interests is “trans female inclusion” make me want to hurl." hahaha you love to hate.

100% hater.